Do you believe your child should score higher grades than she already
does? Do you think that he is not learning according to age target? Do
you feel that your child acts stubbornly when you ask her to perform
when others are around? Well, then there is good reason to believe that
you have unrealistic expectations of your child.
Bringing up children, is undoubtedly a challenging task. It is the
prerogative of parents to give their kids a good start in life. Our
attitude towards parenting is guided by our own experience with our
parents and sometimes this approach may be inappropriate. In today’s
world, parental expectations are high. We want our children to excel in
all fields and have many academic accomplishments. By imposing our own
aspirations on our children, we end up compromising with their mental
and emotional health. Unhealthy pressure on children to perform well in
school makes them prone to anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.
Since all children are different and their interests are varied, it is
unwise to anticipate success in every venture they undertake.
Parents are advised to be patient with their young ones. They should
adhere to some personal boundaries and respect the child’s refusal to
something he does not like. Such behavior should not be considered
stubbornness or a tendency to be rebellious. Refrain from nagging, use
positive statements to encourage your children. Identify their strengths
and help them focus and achieve them. Respect the fact that a child is
an individual too and has a right to his own life. Nurture and treasure
your children, for they learn best what they see and experience.